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| Power of Respect Mini-Course Lesson Six: Elimination! Written Version |
| Lesson Six The Elimination Process This is the heart of this strategy, without this it has no power. It might work without it, but in a limited fashion. This empowers everyone equally and completely. This is what makes believers out of all participants. This is what brings troubled teens to the table, and other reluctant people. This creates a foundation of mutual respect and trust. It opens minds to understanding others’ points of view. It brings harmony and peace of mind to all participants. This is a true Power of Respect Strategy. It is simple. Eliminate any solutions or parts of solutions that are not acceptable to any of the participants. Cross off that idea or that part of an idea. It is not usable. Using it would be disrespectful to the person who does not like it. If all ideas are crossed off, you must brainstorm again. You can do it right then, if everyone agrees to do so. However, it is more likely that you will have several ideas or parts of ideas to work with. (I have never had all of the ideas crossed off, for your information.) Grandmother/Grandson Session Continued (it starts with the list generated during Brainstorming) Tony never has to do homework. Grandma does homework for Tony. Tony does his homework every day and Grandma doesn’t even have to ask him to do it. Grandma tells the teacher not to give Tony homework. Tony has fun doing his homework. Tony does his homework as soon as he comes home. Tony has all of his friends over and they do homework together. Grandma makes Tony’s favorite snacks and he gets to have them while he does his homework. Tony’s friends come over and do his homework. Tony does his homework and Grandma takes him to all the baseball games at the stadium. Tony does his homework and Grandma takes his and all his friends to the stadium. Etc… “Now comes the good part! I want to cross off that I do my homework and you don’t have to tell me.” “Ok. Next?” “I want to cross off that I do my homework as soon as I get home and that I have fun doing my homework. I’ll never have fun doing homework.” “Sure we can cross those off. Anymore?” “Not right now.” “Ok. I want to cross off that I do your homework for you and that I ask your teacher not to give you homework and I want to cross off the word ‘all’ in the part about taking you and friends to the stadium. I might take you and one or two friends. I think that’s it for now.” Family Session Continued (it starts with the list generated during Brainstorming) Gabby gets to stay home during family vacation. Gabby goes with us. Gabby stays with her girlfriend, Jean. We all just stay home. We shorten our vacation and all go together. We ask Aunt Mimi to come stay with Gabby. We stay home and do things here together. Gabby invites a friend or two to come along. We go somewhere so exciting Gabby wants to come with us. Etc… “Ok. Now comes crossing off. Who wants to go first?” “Me! Me! Me! I want to cross off that Gabby stays home.” “Ok. It’s crossed off. Who’s next?” “I guess I want to cross off that I go with you. I’m sorry, Crystal, but I really don’t want to go on a family vacation. I really want to stay with my friends this summer.” “So are we leaving that I stay with Jean?” “No. Cross that off.” “Ok, Crystal. Anyone else?” |
